Surrender? Not me!

Surrender (give oneself up into the power of another) is a word I have always avoided. My stubborn side just gets more entrenched if you talk about surrendering. Maybe this push back came because I was raised by 2 strong parents and raised with 3 strong brothers. I remember having philosophical discussions with my dad. The talk would go on and on. Finally, I would either agree with him or just stop talking. Later on in life, I realized that he was just trying to be sure I stayed on the “right track” in life. But was that the right track for me? Recently, I realized that the folks I feel most called to assist through my transformational work are the highly intuitive and sensitive. (It wasn’t until later in my life that I realized I was one!) As I thought about “surrender,” I wondered if the highly intuitive and sensitive tend to be more opposed to surrendering or is it a common human attribute? I’ve noticed that those of us who are highly intuitive and sensitive don’t seem to feel like we belong; we don’t feel we are normal (whatever that is). There are many ways we try to fit in. Often parents, teachers, and others in authority try to force us into their world (for our own good, of course). Some of us fight the system (family expectations, school, work), try to go along with the program, or bit by bit we check-out figuring “What’s the use? You may or may not resonate to these experiences, but I’m sure you have some kind of reaction to the...

Emanate Your Magnificence!

You may feel them as body aches and pains, feeling low, noticing that odd thoughts surface, or that you just don’t trust your deeper self. You are not alone. Many are experiencing this. Allow yourself to notice what surfaces without becoming it. Feel the emotions. Notice the thoughts. Be aware of the part of you that doesn’t trust. As you give attention to them, without taking on these emotions and beliefs, there is a healing that can take place. Call in the colors to help. You don’t have to know which ones.  Just allow the appropriate frequency of color to appear in your mind’s eye. Wrap it around you. When you are ready, go deep to find your inner light. Celebrate your magnificence. Notice how this also allows you to celebrate the courage of your human self who is willing to embrace your inner truth without minimizing its part in this incarnation. As your human/divine magnificence, you become more aware of your soul in human form. This is the power of Love right here, right now.   The Luminary called “Love” says:    When humanity acts from fear, Love disappears  It is as if a veil is placed    between humans and that which most deeply connects them to Love.    Survival becomes the main focus. That can change. Love has never    left. Humans often fear being abandoned, but Love, with all its attributes, waits in the wings ready to be acknowledged.  Remember that you were           birthed from Love; therefore, you are a rainbow energy imprint of Love.   The Luminary called “Illumination”...

You are ready! You are supported!

The energy of change is here to give you lift off. Here’s a message from the *Luminary ‘Passionate Ascension’. “Intention and commitment to the spiritual journey have brought you to this juncture.  Now, it is time to leap with faith into an unknown world.  Let your passion propel you inward to your core in order to combust outward into a new way of being, without looking back.”   In a recent meditation of reflection this conversation with my ‘Inner Knowing Self’ came to me. You are in a time of change! “Okay, I’ve been hearing that for some time.” Whatever you are attached to will not allow your life flow. “Yes, I know that.” Dig deeper.  This is a complete surrender to your Inner Knowing Self. “Hmm that’s not so easy. How do I know it will work?” You don’t know if it will work.  You have never been in this exact energy or situation before. “So what is new about it?” There’s no fall back position!  No matter how much harder you try, the old ways of making things happen won’t work.  There is no other choice than to release EVERYTHING that holds you back. “But what about . . . .  I can’t let that go.  It’s everything I’ve been working toward.  If I let that go, it’s like failing.” Yup, that needs to go too. “So if I let that go, what will replace it?” That’s the mystery and the magic.  The flow that comes from you inner self will take you to the next step.  And sometimes that seems pretty vague. “What do I do...

How Can That Be Co-Dependent?

A pattern I have noticed in relationships goes something like this.   “He/She’s my better half!”     “I can’t live without her (him).”     “He/She completes me.”   We sing about it! We declare it to our friends! We think saying this is a compliment! Isn’t this a way of saying how important the other person is to you? Many see it as another way of saying I love you. But, what if it’s the perfect setup for co-dependency? How can that be? It just means I love this person so much! This way of thinking can mean that you are unwilling to be complete within yourself! Ouch! That doesn’t seem right! I want to be whole, but I’m just not sure what that is. So then, let’s look at what it means to be complete, whole within ourselves. Wholeness means that the duality of selves within us begin to work together. Each represents part of us. Together, they bring in the whole person. Wholeness brings together your conscious human self and your super conscious spiritual self. It balances your empowered masculine side and your empowered feminine side. This is the recipe for healthy relationships! You no longer get stuck in the daily drama because now you can step back and observe life through a more expanded lens. Therefore, you see how you are acting and responding and you see how the other person in the relationship is acting and responding. You have more compassion for yourself and others because you are not blaming yourself or others. You recognize that being human means you trip up sometimes, even when...

When to Say “No” and When to Say “Yes”

Do you sometimes quickly say yes and later regret it? This pattern can come from a desire to please others.  It can lead to overwhelm and a disregard for your own well-being. Color Therapy can dissolve this pattern easily and completely.  However, the first step is to recognize the pattern.  I like how Kellyann Petrucci helps us identify the pattern and suggests some common sense ways to shift our usual reactions.  Read her full article here. Are you ready to dissolve the energy of that pattern so completely that it doesn’t show up at all?  That’s what the ‘Complementary Color‘ vibrations can do.  Or do you have another pattern that keeps you stuck that you are ready to let go? Every time you release what holds you back, you gain more clarity about who you are and what you are here for.  Besides that, your stress is reduced so your health is improved. Contact Us to learn more about the Transformational Sessions we offer by phone and in person in some locations Blessings, Arlene Arnold Founder of Complementary Color Therapy...

Someone Has to Be at Fault, Don’t They?

  Someone has to take the blame!  And if it’s you, the expectation is that you will feel ashamed of what you caused. Growing up, when one kid tattled on another, the parent felt obligated to assign blame and punishment.  Some kids got real adept at playing the game and making sure they were not the ones who were called out to be blamed, even if they were the ones who started it.  What a way to feel powerful! So whether you were the one blamed or you were the victor without blame, you both developed unhealthy ideas of power. The one being blamed either developed an anger streak that could erupt anytime they felt they were being put in a box, or they took on an overlay of belief that said they were no good and should be ashamed of who they were. The one without blame found subtle ways to have more power.  They honed their intuitive skills that recognized another person’s weakness, or need, and then played their life cards carefully so they always stayed in power. Yikes!  Either one of those scenarios requires a whole lot of energy to maintain! Can you feel any form of those patterns lurking around in you?  Wouldn’t you like to reclaim your energy and your integrity (who you truly are) even if the pattern of blame is only a small part of what shows up sometimes? So how do we live without assigning blame or finding fault? My version of this blame game (I was the one who felt I must have done something wrong…) finally began to dissolve by...