Between the Poles

Are you feeling fatigued by the flood of changes, disruptions, and sense of chaos in the world around us? Has it spilled over into your personal life? Recently, I found myself saying, “ I need a vacation!” Nothing in my life seemed to be flowing. I planned; things changed.  I was ready to throw up my hands and get out of town. Taking a break can be very beneficial. Opting out in frustration, not so much.   A quote in an article sent to me by a friend helped me put things into perspective: “If you do not trust life to unfold, the mind takes over and it becomes a game of strategy, motivated by anxiety. This mistrust is unfair. Life has given us so much, and yet we do not trust it.” http://hackspirit.com/15-quotes-modern-day-zen-master-will-blow-mind-wide-open/ I’ve learned that trusting doesn’t mean sitting around waiting for the Universe to rain down all things good. I’m still the one in human form that needs to act when the time is right. However, action out of frustration or action intended to kick the ball forward with no attention to the game, usually ends badly. I find that I am learning a new way of being. We don’t need to operate from one pole that is frustrated- action or the other pole that is trust that it will all be taken care of. There is a balance somewhere In the middle. In between frustration and blind trust (of an outside force) is a place of awake, aware action guided by inner trust. How do we get to that in between place? Here is a...

Finding Your Authentic Center

As humans we have lived in a duality of separation. This is good; that is bad. I want this; I don’t want that. I value this; not that. This has led to wars, family feuds, personal self esteem issues, and so much more. This kind of separation makes finding your authentic center nearly impossible. So how do we make a change?   An important part of finding your authentic center is to be able to embrace both the active masculine part of you and the receptive feminine part. These may look quite different in people, so finding what that feels like for you and how that shows up in your life will also be unique. The active get-it-done masculine energy has dominated most cultures on earth for a very long time.  It has left us with beliefs about ourselves and others that may not seem authentic to you. Here’s one limiting belief I took on: If you don’t get things done, you are lazy. Of course having my astrological sun sign in Aries, which is a fire sign, adds to that propensity. Before I learned how to work with the Aries energy, I would push myself to exhaustion and burnout. My moon is in Pisces which is a water sign. Pisces is intuitive and flowing. In my life I have often bounced back and forth between making things happen and going with the flow. I never felt settled into my authenticity by going from extreme to extreme. Over the years I have seen this quandary in many others besides myself. We are in a time of finding that place...