Surrender? Not me!

Surrender (give oneself up into the power of another) is a word I have always avoided. My stubborn side just gets more entrenched if you talk about surrendering. Maybe this push back came because I was raised by 2 strong parents and raised with 3 strong brothers. I remember having philosophical discussions with my dad. The talk would go on and on. Finally, I would either agree with him or just stop talking. Later on in life, I realized that he was just trying to be sure I stayed on the “right track” in life. But was that the right track for me? Recently, I realized that the folks I feel most called to assist through my transformational work are the highly intuitive and sensitive. (It wasn’t until later in my life that I realized I was one!) As I thought about “surrender,” I wondered if the highly intuitive and sensitive tend to be more opposed to surrendering or is it a common human attribute? I’ve noticed that those of us who are highly intuitive and sensitive don’t seem to feel like we belong; we don’t feel we are normal (whatever that is). There are many ways we try to fit in. Often parents, teachers, and others in authority try to force us into their world (for our own good, of course). Some of us fight the system (family expectations, school, work), try to go along with the program, or bit by bit we check-out figuring “What’s the use? You may or may not resonate to these experiences, but I’m sure you have some kind of reaction to the...

Clarity and Courage

What does clarity look like to you? Does it mean you have a clear life path–a sense of what you are here in this life for. Or perhaps clarity means you see who you are, not from another’s perspective, but from getting real with yourself. And sometimes that comes because you have said, “No, that’s not who I am.” Clarity can also mean that you have cleared away old messages about life, it’s meaning, your obligations to others, and all the many “should’s” that were heaped on you. This can leave you with a clean slate–a place to start that doesn’t have all the puzzle pieces of life already assembled for you. Then, you can fill that slate with what seems real to you; what makes you happy; what stokes your passion without expecting others to have the same things on their slate. In other words, you don’t have to compare yourself to others or to measure up to some imaginary yardstick that says, “Be this, do that, think this so you will be acceptable.” That’s where courage comes in. With nobody else’s parameters defining you, this new kind of freedom can be daunting.  “What if I leave behind something that is important? What if I am just kidding myself? Can I be this capable, this able to navigate my own life?” “Will I lose family and friends because I am not conforming? Will I have those in my life who are willing to listen to me and want to share ideas without telling me what’s right and wrong?” The color Yellow, along with Purple, give us tools for clarity...

Do You Move in the Rhythm of Guidance?

Have you ever noticed how you can peacefully move with inner guidance until you get stressed? Stress tightens the body and seems to squeeze out that inner voice that is our compass. We forget to breathe.  Our pace gets faster (or slower if fear takes over) and we feel out of sync. This leaves room for another voice to bubble up that says things like: I don’t know how to do this I don’t know where to begin This is too hard I’m not good at this How do you stop that voice of doubt? This is the point at which simple tools help because just remembering you have tools is not easy when doubt has taken over. You might want to put these steps on a sticky note someplace where you will notice them easily. Stop whatever you are doing Breathe  Ground (Think of something in nature or go outside) If there were a color that could sync you with your inner guidance right now, what color would it be?  First one that comes to mind. Breathe in that color. When you are ready, take one step, in sync with your inner guidance, that will move you forward. The more often we recognize when we have moved into a stress mode, the faster our energy can shift. And oh how much better it feels to flow in sync with inner guidance! Find out more about moving in the rhythm of guidance with Leslie Romine and me on The Power of Color Radio Show tomorrow (October 28th) at 3:30 Pacific/6:30 Eastern. Blessings, Arlene...

Gain Inner Peace by Living in the Moment

Are you stressed with what you need to do? Does each task seem too much? Inner peace comes by living in this moment fully! This week I felt like I was living an old version of me–the one that felt overwhelmed by things to do and agreeing to too many projects and responsibilities. Once again, I was ahead of myself. I was in the next moment, not this one. This old version of me felt uncomfortable, like clothing I have outgrown, but found in my closet. This morning I received some helpful reminders in my journaling. “At this time there is much in flux. Being at peace within is the primary intention. Shaping the future comes from honoring the moment. All else is wasted energy.” The upcoming full moon also helps us understand why these old patterns are coming up. This is a time of purging the old patterns. Like me, you may have been doing this for some time. Now is the time to complete anything that is leftover. We are constantly given opportunities to see if we have completed the purge. This week I noticed that my drain was getting clogged up again! Thinking about clearing that drain seemed like one more stress. OK, I could be frustrated or I could use it as a way to see what was clogged up in me. I found old energy on the back of my heart. The colors that wanted to help clear this energy are new ones, crystalline black and crystalline white. These colors cleaned up that leftover energy in short order. I also reminded myself that clearing...